So Tinder is a real doozy and a bit of a mystery. For the men, it seems like it doesn’t always work. In fact, plenty of guys have told me they just haven’t been able to actually go out with a match. Some don’t even GET matches. Putting together personal experience, a whole bunch of interesting feedback, plus one or two success stories, I’ve come up with a quick guide to help you kickstart your Tinder journey and hopefully, get you face-to-face with a girl.
1) Connect to Facebook
“But my friends will find out!”
It’s 2015. There is no shame in dating online anymore. Half your unmarried friends are probably using Tinder or some other dating app to meet people. No one is going to judge you, and if they do, well you don’t need friends like those.
Connecting to Facebook helps you start your account fast by allowing you to pull profile pictures and verify you as a real human being. But that’s not the important part. The key thing here is that Facebook knows all your interests and geographical location. Guess what’s important to people dating you? What you like and where you live. Bingo.
Tinder can now push relevant matches to you first, giving you a higher chance of finding a solid match.
2) Copywrite your Bio Tagline
Your profile picture gets you her, but your Bio Tagline is the key to her attention. Bio tagline character counts are generous, so you have plenty of freedom. However, you want to be quick and “to the point” with your Bio Tagline. Tinder is generally a fast-flowing activity for most users, and their attention span is probably in the 3-5 second range, so be succinct. Here’s the tagline I used:
“Swipe right for funny, geeky, obscure or awesome. You have to like the beard, of course.
Here are some other great Bio Taglines I saw online…
“The least flexible guy in the yoga studio, but my downward dog is top notch.”
“Collector of moments, not things. Lover of adventure, sushi, and wine.”
“I’m not good at taking off bras so don’t worry, I won’t ask you for casual sex”
They need to be quick, funny and tell the reader something about you.
3) Take a closer look!
I know a lot of guys just swipe right all the time without a second thought. Here’s the problem with that mode of behaviour:
- You’re cultivating a desperation mindset.
- You’re going to end up with so many matches, you won’t know what to do with them
Here’s what you should do:
- Slow down. Look at her profile picture carefully first.
- Tap to bring up her Bio Tagline. Did she put in any effort at all?
- Does she have any common interests? Those show up below the bio tagline
- What about common friends?
- NOW you can swipe!
You’ll realise that you’re no longer burning through swipes that quickly, and you’ll have a clearer target audience, instead of matching with the wrong person and wasting your time.
4) A Match means Nothing.
Look, you’re gonna get matched eventually. It’s bound to happen. The thing is, you may match for many many many reasons like:
- She hit the wrong button
- She’s randomly swiping
- She’s just swiping for fun
- She likes just one feature on your face
- She is looking for a fling
- ….And on and on and on.
At this point, it’s important not to let a match get to you. The initial burst of excitement can and will ruffle your feathers and shake a few brain cells loose. Take some time to pause, recollect yourself and then start texting. Be authentic, skip the cheesy pickup lines and greet her normally.
That’s it! You’re going to have a ball of a time. Keep swiping and don’t give up because your match might be waiting past that next right swipe.