So I chanced upon this article on my Facebook feed. Basically, this girl got roofied (drugged) and then given an unwelcome photoshoot while she was knocked out. Someone removed her clothes, took pictures and circulated them. This happened in China, but found its way onto local portal, STOMP/Lollipop.sg.
This was its Lead-in Picture
By the time I saw it on my Facebook feed, the comments were already full of people condemning the girl.
Cue the men
Let’s start with the classic stuff first.
Michael Lim, with a Facebook profile pic of a Buddha, actually thinks that rape is okay if a girl shows some tit. If you’re Michael’s friend, please be careful. He’ll rape you if you show him some flesh.
Iskhandar here has decided that if you get betrayed by your friends, SERVE YOU RIGHT. That’s right… the same guy that has no friends, girlfriend, sibling or BFFs at all…
Also: Bless you, Ailin Ang, whoever you are. You’ve tried your best.
Darren How believes that if you expose some flesh, you lose all your rights along with your dignity. Bugra Katranci also thinks that if you have a brain, you should “go home with your feminism”. I say Bugra doesn’t have a functional brain because no one understands what the fuck she’s saying.
Women come crawling out of the woodwork
This actually surprised the shit out of me. In hindsight, it shouldn’t have surprised me that women judge each other harshly.
This first one is from Yum Mummy (again, what’s with the weird names).
Only one comment:
wat = *What
chic = *chick
You may think she dressed cheaply, but I KNOW for sure you can’t spell.
Andorra Ooi definitely has had some experience with “F*** up bitch attitude” friends. She doesn’t know this girl, but hey it’s okay to be drugged and violated if shes a “F*** up bitch”. If you know Andorra doesn’t like you, remember not to go out clubbing with her.
I can tell you that because she thinks it’s alright to be violated for any reason at all, she’s the fucked up one.
Priscilla Lim has some choice words, including “slut” because if you dress sexy, you’re a slut. Also, if you responded to her, you’re “same type”. It’s this messed up attitude that’s keeping us in Third World “type” mentality, for sure.
You know Lyn, men will look at boobs. Men will also totally touch said boobs if you allow them. BUT when a girl is drugged and unconscious, it becomes a CRIME TO TOUCH HER BOOBS.
IT’S NOT OKAY AT ALL!
Mag Kan. You also got an ah lian face also and yes, unless someone has special magic vision, they won’t be able to see nipples as well. Please tell me if you know a special way to see them.
Mag tries to use logic here, but fails to impress: No she doesn’t deserve it because of the way she dresses (ooohhh she feels so smart now) BUT she is dumb & vain (HAH! So proud for her, using descriptive words) to accept a drink so she deserves it.
You’re kinda an idiot.
What’s ridiculous to me…
is the fact that a large number of people on the page actually think it is okay to blame the girl for some perceived invitation to be drugged and photographed without consent.
What is ridiculous to me is that a large number of women think that it’s a woman’s fault. That rape or any outrage of modesty is alright if she didn’t dress in long sleeved, non-figure accentuating clothes.
What’s ridiculous to me is that we, as a collective, are largely silent about standing with the victims. Stop this shit, guys. JUST STOP IT.